Let’s talk about dharma—no, not the latest trendy yoga class or a new vegan cookbook (though both are great). Dharma, in the ancient wisdom of Ayurveda and yoga, is your unique purpose or path in life. It's that deeper sense of what you're here to do, like a calling or mission, but without the pressure of a mid-life crisis to figure it all out.
Now, I know what you're thinking. "But Shirley, I'm still trying to figure out if I should put tomato or pesto on my pasta tonight." And I get it. The big questions of life can feel like they come with a heavy side of existential dread. But here’s the thing—finding your dharma isn’t about some grand, complicated pursuit; it’s often about showing up, being true to yourself, and doing what feels right.
Think of it this way: If I were in Tuscany, surrounded by rolling hills, sipping on a glass of local red wine (I mean, who isn't?), I’d be asking myself: "What am I meant to do right here, right now?" Maybe it’s taking a walk through the vineyards or chatting with a neighbor about how to make the perfect risotto. There’s no rush. Finding your dharma doesn’t require a grand gesture, just an openness to what calls to you in each moment.
You don’t need to leave for a Tuscan holiday (or even leave your cozy couch) to discover your dharma. You just need to tune in and ask: What feels aligned with who I truly am? Sometimes it’s small, like realizing that you’re really good at helping people through a crisis or being the friend who brings the best soup when someone’s sick (I see you, soup-makers). Other times, it’s a bigger, long-term calling, like starting a yoga studio or launching a podcast on the secrets of Italian olive oil. Either way, dharma is about embracing what lights you up and offers something positive to the world.
It’s also okay to have a little fun along the way! Dharma isn’t about all serious moments and deep thoughts (unless you want it to be). Sometimes it’s about laughing at yourself, rolling with the punches, and enjoying the ride. Like trying to find your way through a Tuscan village on a bike—lost for a while, but laughing about the journey and the little things you learn about yourself along the way.
If you’re feeling a little lost, or maybe you just need a reminder, here’s a secret: your dharma is likely already happening in the things that bring you joy, the things that feel effortless, the moments when time seems to disappear. It might not always be what you expect, and that’s totally okay.
And while you’re finding your dharma, remember: there’s no harm in enjoying the small pleasures too—whether it’s a bowl of pasta, a warm cup of tea, or simply being present in the moment.
So take a deep breath, relax, and trust that you’re on your path. Maybe you’re meant to be doing something great or maybe you’re just meant to enjoy quietly caring for your family. Either way, it’s all part of the adventure. And, just for fun, throw in a little pesto with that pasta!
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